Molly at Adventures in Mercy has another one of her from-the-gut transparent posts about her experience in separating from her husband. This one is about reactions from the Christian community around her.
In the comment thread one woman mentions an upcoming visit with a friend she suspects will announce her intention to get divorced during their visit. As a friend who was in the wedding party of this couple, she’s struggling with the feeling that there might be something she should or could say to talk her friend out of it. But in the meantime she is mulling over just saying:
1. I’m so sorry you are going through this.
2. I’m also sorry I haven’t been there for you (we’ve lost contact over the years)
3. Is there anything I can do for you?
I think those are good things to say, and a good place to stop. And then listen.