It’s Not About Being Perfect

Here’s a little story homeschooling speaker Norm Wakefield passed along a few months back.

Tim Russert, moderator and managing editor of Meet the Press, included a powerful story contributed by Merabeth Lurie in his book, Wisdom of our Fathers. Her seven-year old little brother, Jim, liked to watch and “help” his father as he made such things as chandeliers from old wagon wheels and unusual light fixtures from copper bulbs that float in toilet tanks. While his dad was at work, Jim would use his tools to make his own creations, but wouldn’t put them back in their rightful place many times.

After telling Jim the importance of putting things back, his dad decided to build a small tool chest where he could keep his best tools so Jim couldn’t get to them. As Jim’s dad worked on the chest, Jim watched and helped excitedly. When the lock was being installed, Jim asked, “What’s that?” To which his dad replied, “It is a lock, so that in order to get tools from the chest you have to open it with a key.”

Jim got a strange look on his face, looked up at his father, and asked, “Who will have the key, Dad?”

His dad paused for a moment, considered the look on his son’s face, and wisely and lovingly said, “There will be just two keys, Jim. One for you and one for me.”

A lot of parenting involves being near your child when they make their mistakes–near enough to be inconvenienced, near enough to help them when they make mistakes, near enough to quietly help them clean up the mess  If you think it’s about apple pie order and perfection and having a trophy child, you’ll miss the relationship.


About katiekind

Enjoying the second half of life. I have three sons who are the apples of my eye and a wonderful husband of 35 years--those are the important things. Long ago, out of the blue, I became a Christian. It was something I never planned on, but what joy it has been. I do website development and I like to read and garden and paint and I love beauty and truth.
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3 Responses to It’s Not About Being Perfect

  1. kara says:

    Oh, that’s a lovely story.

  2. darlene says:

    Bravo, Kathy! You are so right!

  3. kristen says:

    That’s a great story. Thanks for sharing!

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